Question your thoughts to change your life.

We seem to have this image in our minds, this perfect idea of what somebody should be and act like. And when these unsuspecting others fail to live up to the image we have of them in our mind, we judge them for it.

They’re not our idea of the perfect mother, they’re not our idea of the perfect boss. They’re not our idea of the perfect husband, or sibling, friend, work colleague, employee.

Now where does this idea of something or someone being ‘perfect’ come from?

I invite you to now just ponder on that.

Perfection is just a concept isn’t it, which when you question it, crumbles.

Perfection doesn’t exist.

This thought in our head about someone comes, an image appears and then more images come which form a story in our minds of how they should be, it all should be. Our feelings kick in as our body responds to our thoughts and related conjured-up imagery. We can become angry, sad, self- righteous and all because we believed the thought, the idea in our heads, which then started to create a story, an old, looping one at that most probably.

So we get ourselves worked up and fully emoted, about nothing. About stuff in our heads that isn’t even true.

When we start to self–reflect and question what we are thinking, we get calm back, peace back.

You will get to a stage where you will even laugh at the thoughts you took seriously without question.

Let me ask you this: Are you perfect?

As you see yourself, so you see the world. How could it be any different than that?

Your own judgements of your own supposed imperfections get projected onto others.

Easier to see out there isn’t it?

The truth is you will never be perfect, and neither will they, out there in the world, because as we established, perfection doesn’t exist.

We aren’t cardboard cut – outs or clones from Hollywood movies emulating ‘perfect’ lives, relationships and plot lines, which is perhaps where this idea of perfection came from in the first place.

We, we the people, are everyday people.

We are real.

Now imagine for a moment, that you got to a point in life where you accepted yourself.

Imagine you didn’t have a running script in your head judging, evaluating, condemning, and critiquing yourself and others.

If you accepted yourself more, you would accept others more wouldn’t you?

Imagine your head being calmer.

And your heart more open.

And imagine feeling more relaxed and freer.

And what would have changed? Just your thoughts.

To be precise, the questioning of your thoughts, over and over.

Thoughts change by you taking the time and being in the right space to start questioning them.

Most of the thoughts you have, aren’t even yours. You didn’t come up with them, you heard them and have been taking them in without questioning them and you have copied them.

Until now.

How powerful and life changing it would be to start questioning those thoughts that have been on repeat your whole life – creating most of your suffering, about yourself, others and the world.

I know it seems too simple to be true. But don’t knock something you haven’t tried. Apart from heroin. Don’t try that that.

Seriously though. I used to think it was mumbo jumbo, change your thoughts, change your life.

Until life slapped me right in the face with the truth of it.

And guess what, every day poses another opportunity for life to slap me right in the face and for me to question my thoughts.

Every day, we get to release ourselves, free ourselves and each other just by questioning our thoughts and seeking to really ask - “Is this true?”

And the more ingrained this practise becomes, the more the patterns of the past start breaking down to enable new ways and happier ways to reveal themselves.

Try it. What have you got to lose? Your suffering right?